in haiku (for no reason)
all my nerves are shot
our separation seems imminent
film at eleven
for archival purposes only
"I thought you guys were going to take down that tree."What is it? Fucking Thursday? Three days after we took the ornaments off of a tree it took you five months to get around to stripping? How much nerve does that take?
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"It is no exaggeration to say that the national security is also implicated by the efforts of hackers to break into computing networks," Allchin testified.WTF?? "implicated?" Thank you Mr. Malaprop! So he's saying that whenever we see hackers working it's evidence of "the national security?" Huh? Do you suppose he meant "imperiled" or perhaps "impeded"?
He later acknowledged that some Microsoft code was so flawed it could not be safely disclosed.Vote Linux. Vote Often.
I read this to a coworker (a very good friend) and he had an interesting take. He said that he believes a lot of nagging and condescension derives from perception. That one of the people perceives the other as "incorrect," when the whole notion of "correct" is subjective. He also theorizes that condescension is a symptom of something deeper. And the greater the "deep" problem gets, the more "incorrect" the partner seems and thus more condescension. Is it incorrect to take a different route to someplace or do household chores in a different order? Not likely. Does that mean that no one has ever been nagged by their spouse for those exact reasons? Do I need to answer that?
Akeru:
Your comments about "lack of common sense" and "condescension" struck a note with me. I have been guilty of this for quite a while with my long-term boyfriend. He just...doesn't...GET...some things that (to me) anyone with common sense would see and understand. Like driving the mower over the lawn sprinkler head that was sticking up because he thought the mower would just push it down again. (No, we had to dig up the sprinkler and replace it.) ... How he has ruined a number of my expensive clothing items (silk, linen, etc.) on several occasions by tossing them unasked into the dryer and forgetting to look at either the clothing care labels or the previous settings -- 60 minutes, on high heat -- before turning on the dryer. How you don't "just forget" to lock the front door at night or check each day to see if the pets have fresh water; these things should become ingrained, ritual activities that require only autopilot functions from the human brain.
All of these things scream COMMON SENSE to me. But if I bring it up, he says I'm "nagging," "critical," or "too anal." He's actually a very intelligent, kind, fun person, but after a while I've noticed a real attitude of condescension sneaking into my feelings toward him whenever these kinds of things come up. I think (but don't say) things like "idiot" and "dumbass" that I would never otherwise apply to him. I also sometimes wonder if he does things like this on purpose?? -- ruining the sprinkler so that, maybe, next time the grass needs cutting I'll say NO, FORGET IT, I'll do it myself. Passive-aggressive, and all that. I love him a lot and this is one of the few things that really gets to me.
Anyway, my point was...well, are you sure that there isn't perhaps some slight justification for her opinions on this matter? Not trying to take sides, just wondering
'Bitchen' Ric:
Oh yes! There is *definitely* justification for her beliefs! You just described me! I'll admit I don't have what you or her call "common sense." A lot of it is not stupidity, though. It's three things:I've done most of the things you've mentioned. Here's my point:
- Absentmindedness (Disney professor stuff like the locking the doors thing)
- Overthinking things intellectually out of context. (Sprinkler)
- True lack of common sense. (Dryer shrinking.)
You admit that you become condescending, and that it's hurtful. I don't understand why you and her can't just resolve yourself to who we are and love us for who we are instead of "nagging" common sense in to us. We don't (and won't) learn it. Our brains don't work that way. We don't nag you because you can't format a hard drive. We love you anyway.
He DOESN'T do them on purpose. Our brains just work differently.
And we do "just forget" incredibly important things. It hurts us deeply that we forget, but it happens. We just want you to love us *despite* the fact that our brains work differently.
THERE'S THIS GUY ACROSS MY HOUSE WELL ACTUALLY THEIR 2.AND THE FIRST ONE IS OLDER LIKE 24 AND HIS OTHER BROTHER IS 20.. I'M 16.. WELL THE GUY WHO IS 24 I KNOW THEM FROM A LONG TIME ESPECIALLY FOR 8 YEARS..THEY ALWAYZ LOOK AT ME WELL GIVING ME EYE CONTACT AND SOME TIMES SMILES..BUT ONE DAY I TOLD THE OLDER ONE I WANNA BE HIS FRIEND AND HE SAID TO ME THAT HE HAS LOTS OF FRIENDS AND DON'T NEED MORE. BUT LAST WEEK HIS YOUNGER BROTHER TOLD ME THE SAME THING BUT HE SAID SORRY.. THEN I TOLD HIM DON'T BE SHY TO TALK TO ME HE SAID I'LL TRY.. BUT THE NEXT DAY HE SMILED AT ME..MY FRIEND HAD HEARD THAT HIS OLDER BROTHER TOLD HIS BROTHER AND FRIEND THAT HE LOVES ME AND WANTED TO ASK ME OUT. BUT HE NEVER DID.. THEY DON'T EVEN TALK TO ME NOTHING THE ONLY THING IS STAIR AT MY EYES FOR A LONG TIME AND I WOULD STAIR BACK.. BUT LIKE WHEN THEY TALK TO ME BACK IT'S LIKE THEY HIDE SOMETHING.BUT AFTER HIS FRIEND ASK HIM WERE SHE LIVES HE POINTED TO MY WINDOW AND HIS YOUNGER BROTHER SAID SHE IS NOT THAT BAD.BUT NOW HIS BROTHER ALWYZ LOOKS AT ME DANCING, TALKING ANYTHING I DO..BUT THERES ONE THING I DON'T UNDERSTAND ON MY MSN CHAT THEIRS THE E-MAIL OF THE GUY ACROSS MY HOUSE WITH MY NAME FOREVER BUT HE TOLD ME HIS BROTHER IS IN FLORIDA NOW AND I TOLDD HIM I KNOW BUT I TOLD THEM HE ACTS LIKE U TOO BUT HE DIDN'T ANSWER ABOUT HIM BUT THE ONLY THING HE TOLD ME IS THAT HE DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING IN COMPUTER BUT I DON'T BELIEVE THAT A GUY WON'T KNOW.. SO I REALLY WANNA KNOW WHAT ALL THIS MEANS CAUSE I AHVE BEING WONDERING FOR 3 YEARS. THANX AND LET ME KNOW PLEASE!Sometimes you have to pick your battles...
If there is anyone out there who does not like hearing about Ben, let me know... It's not that I don't enjoy writing about him, believe me, I love it, but it gets a bit tedious putting it in my blog and in my journal. My journal always comes first, it is my child, it is my life, and I love it so much. My journal and I are so tight that we make fun of the blog for being superficial sometimes.I know I've said it before, but go and follow her account of her crush on Ben this school year. I'll eat my blog if it doesn't put you back in school, crushing on that someone...
I'd like to feel that my sanity is a concern here, I guess. And, to answer his question, she's older than me.
LilFluffy:
Well, one glaring thing about this entry. Her quick response to your question. You asked a straightforward question, offering to 'help' with the budgeting. The nature of the question makes it obvious that you are 'giving' in this discussion. Her short response, "Make more money", says many things. First, no consideration. This is not an easily accomplished option. Secondly, a very selfish answer on her part. There's no 'give' in it, she's not offering anything, just making a demand, and an unreasonable one at that. In just this two line exchange between the two of you, I see you giving and her taking. Very, very selfish and somewhat mean on her part. How old is she again? Sounds like somewhere around 17 mentally.
'Bitchen' Ric:
In all fairness, there is someplace I could probably go, get hired and make more money. There are three problems with this:
- Impact on my current company (not a huge concern, but I don't want to screw my friends, either).
- Our standard of living would just inflate, it wouldn't solve the problem.
- The new job would be prostitution. 70% office politics and 30% doing a job I wouldn't like to begin with. She doesn't comprehend this. "Providing for the family should be more important than anything."
From: Williams, Evan [mailto:ev@pyra.com]*snif* I'm so proud...
Sent: Thursday, May 09, 2002 5:47 PM
To: Ric -------
Subject: RE: Error on Blogger
thanks for the heads-up. should be fixed now.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Ric
> Sent: Thursday, May 09, 2002 3:32 PM
> To: Williams, Evan
> Subject: Error on Blogger
>
> I consistently get this error when trying to blog from
> non-Pro Blogger. You probably know, but I thought
> I'd give you a heads up. You may try truncating some SQL
> Server logs. Don't know if they get stored in the group
> with the database or not.
> Microsoft OLE DB Provider for ODBC Drivers
> error '80004005'
>
> [Microsoft][ODBC SQL Server Driver][SQL Server]Could
> not allocate space for object 'Items' in database 'blogger'
> because the 'PRIMARY' filegroup is full.
>
> /blog_form-action.pyra, line 54