"don't settle for anything less"
I don't know if I've ever told my father of the important lesson he taught me when I was twelve. He wasn't trying to teach me a life lesson. He was trying to teach me how to roll up my sleeves.
My father was a rolled-up-sleeve kind of guy. Hated the button-down shirts he always wore. Every shirt he ever wore when I was a kid was a two-pocket, long-sleeved, button-down broadcloth shirt. (He didn't graduate to Oxford cloth till I was in college.) He always had two pockets--one for cigarettes and one for a notepad and pens. He wore long sleeves to protect his arms at work. (I wear long sleeves because short sleeves give me that "K-Mart Manager" look.)
He was an inventory cycle counter for International Harvester and did a lot of walking around all day. His overweight and the factory environment made it a hot day and he always ended up with his sleeves rolled up by the time he climbed in his car to come home.
As dutiful, emulating sons, my two older brothers and I learned to roll up our sleeves at school when things got steamy. It was not uncommon for the four of us to sit at the dinner table eating mom's meat and potatoes
du jour, all with rolled up sleeves.
One day when I was twelve, he watched me clumsily roll up my sleeves and decided to comment:
"What do you call that?" he asked, in a sort of nice belittlement.
"I rolled up my sleeves."
"Let me show you how to do that. Roll them back down."
I pushed the crumpled and rolled cotton cloth back down my arms and smoothed out the wrinkles.
"Here," he said, folding the cuff back right on the seam. "fold it back like this and smooth it out."
Where the cuff fell, he bent the cloth to make another overlapping fold and another,
folding the cloth up my arm rather than rolling it.
"You try," he said, indicating my other sleeve.
I folded the cuff back like he had and attempted the second fold. Without the stitching as a guide, the cloth started to wrinkle as I folded. He gently took the cuff from my hand, unfolded the sleeve and began folding it again, showing me how to smooth the cloth from each fold before attempting the next to preserve the clean lines.
"When you fold each one, smooth it out completely," he said, smoothing his most recent fold, "
don't settle for anything less."
That statement changed my life. So many times after that when I found myself doing something that was turning out half-assed, I'd hear my father's words. The admonishment was not, to me, just advice in rolling up your sleeves nicely, but in doing all things nicely.
"Line up those pages before you staple, don't settle for anything less."
"Make sure that code is bug-free, don't settle for anything less."
"Make sure the floor is completely clean, don't settle for anything less."
And ultimately:
"Be a total father, don't settle for anything less."